“We're not cooks, but we are family... We are artist, pirate. More than cooks are we.”
As a little boy -- I was maybe eight or nine -- I experienced a dilemma. My mother used to lie next to me in bed when reading me his bedtime story. I liked it. But I had vague stirrings I later identified as sexual and was afraid my mother might notice. I knew very well that this was something, although I was not sure what exactly, I had to avoid at all cost, and I felt very guilty. For my bedtime story reading I put on extra layers of clothes over my pajamas to avoid any kind of incident. My mother wondered why, but I simply claimed to be cold or invented other excuses.
Parents may not always realize how appeasing it might be to try talking about sexuality. Teenagers get very clear messages about unwanted pregnancies. In conservative families they tend to be told what shame they would bring on the whole family; in other families, teens are warned they will not be able to continue school and training and will be financially responsible for another person earlier than they had planned. And of course, now sex is fraught with the danger of HIV infection. With girls, it seems there is a tendency to leave it at that, even though not all methods of sexual pleasure necessarily lead to pregnancy or HIV risks.
" Masturbation is very bad for your health, the liquid coming out is your bone marrow," is one of the strangest parental explanations that a boy may receive from adults when he is growing up. And it don't make puberty any more fun. In grade nine I heard some extremely bizarre tales. For example, if the length of my shot is not a few good feet, I will never have healthy kids; they will be retarded. I also wondered about the rumor involving a certain kind of soft drink that supposedly causes lower sperm counts. My man-to-man talk was handled by my mother when I was ten. I walked away believing I had understood the whole ordeal. There are parents and educators who give practical advice that is helpful and encouraging, although there may be no standard "right" for anyone.
Similar to the other men and my adulthood, overwhelmingly all my boyish masturbatory fantasies from the age of four, as far as I remember myself, were about tough women who were licking and sucking and cooking me without giving me any easy time, just as the very old, wise, and hungry for human males witch in fairy tales. The more was the better. The more she teases me as a boy the greater pleasurable culminations I have. Does Baba-Yaga really exist? It's a good question. Be that as it may, but, lo and behold, it's not surprising, that almost all men from the birth to the death are so very easily being seduced by a woman's mouth. And I was caught by mouths and eaten a lot. It wasn't for me a problem but a great deal. All that frequent lovemaking was the extend exercising of my multiorgasmic nature. Well, none of any other sort of sex is loved and needed by men so much as oral. Almost every man's dream is to have a woman who would suck him off. If a man could find the woman who would orally eaten him in the morning to wake him up and all the rest of day to have had her fill, he would lay all his life in the mud at her feet, for she would be one woman in a million. However, any woman would find it very exciting when she sees man's multiorgasmic milking and churning, does he have semen or not, and she is exiting the most, when her sweet man keeps on his erection and becomes more and more attractive, cute, tasty, nourishing, and handsome, whatever she does to him, no matter how she eats him by her hands, body, and mouth. For me, it's absolutely just as being hot and fried on a pan and a dish of mysterious Baba-Yaga.
As most of men I should admit that much of my sex education had been gleaned from reading pornographic and men's magazines. I knew and tended to know "everything" very early and was very frank about it. In a crowded department store elevator as a young boy I may ask a pregnant woman, 'Did Daddy put his dick into you?' It was very embarrassing.
When I was 14 or 15 my grandfather sat down with me for a formal talk about sexuality. But all he told me were the facts that I had learned in school many years earlier. And I made it clear that I was up to date. Somehow we reached a more delicate subject, the question whether it was possible for a man to urinate with an erect penis. Grandfathers hardly ever seem to mention involuntary erection or ejaculation.
Often men do not have a male friend with whom they can talk about sexual issues. Not being able to get, or keep, or calm, or steer an erection is still a taboo subject. A female friend is no true back-up; a man needs a male friend for this, especially when he is young. There are many reasons why erections are not happening when the conditions are seemingly right or are happening definitely at the wrong time, or why ejaculation timing is off or so fast. And some of it may not be explainable in medical terms. Sometimes multiorgasmic trainings and rest are all that is needed. But for the moments when it seems like something is amiss or you need to ask a few more questions, it is good to find a knowledgeable man whose manner you like and whom you trust. As every boy I wanted to have as a mentor and a close friend a kind of ancient Greek satyr who would teach me the multiorgasmic skill to play my pipe of lovemaking. Unfortunately, as a young boy I didn't have such a man. All my valuable for me knowledge I picked up grain by grain now here and now there.
The reason of potency and ejaculation problems is not an increase in impotence but inflated expectations. Penises in fantasy come in only three sizes: large, extra large and so big you can't get them through the door. And they function automatically and predictably, like a well-oiled machine. Whence the desire for a longer one? This feeling of inferiority results from when a boy compares his own penis to his father's or other adult man's. To a child a normal penis surely appears gigantic. The challenge is, though, that your sexual capacities are not happen at the flip of a switch. These days men practically demand to retain all of their sexual functions up to a high age. Apart from that, from their first steps as little boys, men are conditioned into thinking that a true man is a man who can stand his own. However, a real man is not someone who can live up to other people's standards and expectations. You cannot simply know that potentially you are an multiorgasmic man, sit back and wait for all your multiorgasmic manifestations to be provided. In the absence of regular sexual training your potential has no effect. Whether the penis is an X, XL or XXL, the tool is as interesting as what the owner does with it. The whole your history is a history of your handling of natural forces and your triumphs over natural forces.
The old, old days were different in that respect. Scholar Erasmus of Rotterdam wrote a book called Colloquia familiaria for his six-year-old godson to educate him in the ways of the world. The book contains detailed descriptions and essays about sexual desire, sexual pleasures, intercourse, conception, pregnancy, childbirth, marriage, divorce, prostitution and venereal diseases. It was published in 1522.
The penis "confers with the human intelligence and sometimes has intelligence of itself, and although the will of the man desires to stimulate it, it remains obstinate and takes its own course, and moving sometimes of itself without license or thought by the man, whether he be sleeping or waking, it does what it desires; and often the man is asleep and it is awake, and many times the man is awake and it is asleep; many times the man wishes it to practice and it does not wish it; many times it wishes it and the man forbids it. It seems therefore that this creature has often a life and intelligence separate from the man, and it would appear that the man is in the wrong in being ashamed to give it a name or to exhibit it, seeking rather constantly to cover and conceal what he ought to adorn and display with ceremony as a ministrant" (Leonardo da Vinci). As far as your penis having a mind of its own, rather than being a pre-programmed robot, he is a performer, affected not only by all the ups and downs of the artistic world, but also by your will to procreate and express the marital love.
Very often the performance of coming fast or multiorgasmic potential may be learned. As a teenager I had these circle jerks in secondary school and high school and college. A bunch of us would stand or seat around in a remote end of a park or in a living room and masturbate. We often had a noble jury from one, two or more consented sisters and girl-friends. "Whoever comes first, is the winner" wasn't our approach. Every boy did all his best to make his phallus the strongest, the biggest, the prettiest. Surely, we didn't expect to get some imaginary yardsticks, our penises just perform in accordance with their natural personal standards. We were not rivals, we were brothers-in-arms and friends. Sometimes that sort of multiorgasmic contest lasted many and many hours. We got the remarkable leisure and informative exercising every time. To be super-potent men with true penis power, we must view our sex as a pleasure as boys do, not a sporting event as all the "adult" men used to.
Chefs note: From his early days a man is learnt and trained his mastery to milk and churn his milky juices up to the last drop while he is retaining, enriching and multiplying his potency, desire, and erection.
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