Chapter I
<< What Are We Talking About? >>
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We're talking about men sharing in the delight of having one orgasm after another. We're talking about an end to the painful tension that exists when a man, knowing that his partner has had sex with other men, finds himself in desperate competition with these unknown lovers. We're suggesting that a man who himself wants to extend sex play because it gives him pleasure will please a woman far more than even the most talented lover who performs out of duty or from a sense of competition. To help our readers reach this goal, we must first clear up a few misconceptions about male sexuality.

The strongest impediment most men must overcome when they think of multi-orgasms for themselves is the belief that orgasm and ejaculation are inextricably bound together. This belief seems to have originated in Western culture at about the same time as the concept of female indifference to sex. We have disproved the latter, as the many books on the subject attest. It is time now to tackle the first—and possibly the most insidious—idea, and lay it forever to rest.
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Ejaculation and male orgasm are not synonymous. We learned this in our laboratory, when thirty-three different men claimed that they were multi-orgasmic—and proved their contention. Recordings confirmed that during one session these men could reach recognizable orgasm again and again—just as some women could. In fact, unless we looked at the name of the subject, we could not tell whether a chart we studied was that of a female or male multi-orgasmic response.

Our curiosity stirred, we studied the charts of other male subjects who had not claimed the ability to have multiorgasms but who had very successful sex relationships. A number of those showed similar peaks, leading us to conclude that they probably also had multiple orgasms, of which they were not aware because they believed orgasm and ejaculation were synonymous and they did not ejaculate at every peak. This indicated to us that male multiple orgasms were more common than we first believed them to be.

Our next breakthrough came over a period of years. We often lecture in the United States and abroad, and whenever we discussed the idea of male multiple orgasms, we encountered a great deal of interest. Always, one or two men would come up to us after our lecture and inform us that they, too, were multi-orgasmic. Interestingly, the greatest response came from groups of men who were involved in hypnosis, especially if they were skilled in self-hypnosis. This isn't surprising. One must know how to relax before one can master multi-orgasmic response, just as one must relax to go into a state of self-hypnosis.


Can Every Man Do It?

Soon after completing our study of the initial thirty-three men, we realized that they had all learned to have multiple orgasms, either by accident or deliberately. This was not entirely unexpected. Most sexual functions appear to be learned. Even people who receive no organized instruction (and that includes many of us, even today) learn through reading, through "discussions" with peers, and through jokes and films. Obviously, the better the instruction, the more skilled the student becomes. So the second concept that is important for a man who wishes to learn to be multiorgasmic is this: Others have learned to be multi-orgasmic—you can, too.
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The third bit of misinformation that must be corrected before we can continue is very deep-seated. From the time we are infants we are taught that men and women—boys and girls—are very different. On "face value" that statement seems irrefutable. However, a quick review of the genital development of a fetus will show just how wrong that belief is.

At conception, the fetus has no sex. It is simply a living organism with undeveloped organs. At five weeks this changes. What appears where the genitals will eventually grow is a series of folds in the outer skin and primitive inner organs that most resemble those of the female. In fact, were one to try to determine sex of the fetus at five weeks one would have to assume it was female.

Differentiation in external genitalia in human embryo and fetus.


During the sixth and seventh weeks, the female fetus shows a refinement in the clitoris and the folds of skin that will become the labia minor and labia major. In the male fetus, the "clitoral stem" begins to grow, forming a tiny penis, and the folds of skin that make up the labia in the female close up to form a sac. If you're a male, look at your scrotum and penis. You will see a fine line, called a raphe, which is the seam line created at that time in the development of the male fetus. On maturity, the testicles move down into the sac created by this "seaming" of the raphe.

Meanwhile, inside the body of the female fetus the fallopian tubes and the ovaries are developing. Those same tubes and sacs, in the male fetus, change into the testicles and the tubing that will carry sperm from its place of origin to the penis. So tiny are these developments that it is not possible to tell with certainty the sex of an unborn child until it is at least eleven weeks old. So the third idea we must learn is this: Men and women—boys and girls—are more alike than they are different.
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There are some other things we ought to consider. For one thing, it is easy to see that since many more—and much greater—changes take place in a male fetus than in a female, there are more opportunities for problems to develop. Some men have one testicle that never descends into the scrotum when they mature. Some men have the urethral opening on the underside of the penis head (called hypospadias) or on the top side (called epispadias), rather than at the very end. However, these small imperfections do not generally interfere with normal living, nor are they uncommon. In our work, we have encountered a dozen or so men who have some such minor imperfection in penile structure. None of them have found it to be a handicap. It is, in fact, usually not even noticeable unless one is carefully examining the penis.

It's important to recognize that men with such a condition can still use the squeeze technique we describe later. However, instead of placing their fingers as we illustrate, they should place them under the urethral opening, toward the base of the penis.


What Do We Mean by Orgasm?

We define orgasm as a peak in emotional and physical responses, accompanied by pelvic contractions, experienced during sexual stimulation. We do not expect male orgasm to be accompanied always by ejaculation. This is a legitimate definition, used by other researchers. To determine just when orgasm takes place, we check our subjects' responses with the use of a Beckman R411 dynograph.
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We use heart-rate peak as the clearest method of identifying orgasm. Usually the heart rate at rest will be about 70 beats per minute. It will speed up to about 120 beats during orgasm, and return to 70 beats when orgasm is over. A typical chart of a female during orgasm resembles a bell-shaped curve, with the actual duration of orgasm usually being from about six to thirty seconds. The longest orgasm observed lasted one minute.

Female Orgasms: A, B—single. E—discrete.

A. Single orgasm is recorded at the cardiac peak of approximately 120 heartbeats per minute.
E. Separate orgasms recorded one minute apart during continuous masturbation.

Some women have several such peaks, interspersed with "valleys." We call such repeating of orgasms multiple orgasms, discrete. That is, they start at "rest," or baseline, reach a peak, and return to baseline before another peak occurs.

Another group of women have an entirely different pattern of multiple orgasms. Their heart rates do not drop to baseline between peaks, but stay high. This is called multi-orgasms, continuous. Yet the peaks are easily identified both by us and by the subjects. Another pattern we find is one where the woman has a number of discrete orgasms and then a multi-orgasm with little drop in heartbeat between peaks.

Female Orgasms: G—continuous. L—combination.

G. Three repeated orgasms recorded in less than two minutes with continual high heart rates of approximately 130 beats per minute.
L. Two continuous orgasms followed by a return to baseline for several minutes and then a discrete orgasm.

Probably because of the emphasis placed on female response during the years of our research, we have far more samples from female subjects than from males. However, even with our smaller male samplings we can detect certain definite similarities between male and female responses. Though individual reactions indicate a "fingerprinting" effect of sexual response for any one individual, there are still certain overall patterns that can easily be identified. It has become clear to us that the similarities between male and female sexual responses are far greater than most people expect them to be.

Sex is a physical activity, and each individual behaves differently—with different response times and varying periods needed before orgasm occurs. Some of our female subjects had their first orgasms after only three minutes of self-stimulation. Others needed almost an hour. The average period was about twenty minutes. But for all the women tested, the actual time span for any given orgasm was quite short—not more than one minute in duration.
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Anyone who has read about male orgasms knows that this is the average duration of male orgasm as well—another indication of the similarity between male and female sexual behavior that has been ignored in most reports—until now.


Why Shouldn’t Men Be Multi-Orgasmic?

Throughout our research, one thing has become clear. There are many differences existing in female sexual responses, yet it appears that most women either are, or can be, multiorgasmic. As we considered the identical origins of the sex organs in the male and female fetus, we began seriously to question the conclusion, so generally accepted by both the scientific and lay communities, that men could only have one orgasm in any one sexual encounter while women naturally could have many. Our findings that the scientific "picture" of a male orgasm bore a strong resemblance to that of a female served to further reinforce our theory that men could—if they learned how—have as many orgasms as women do during one sexual experience. Subsequent research, over a period of ten years, has shown this to be true.

So, once more, we returned to the analysis of the recorded responses of the multi-orgasmic men who first came to our notice. We compared their scientific "pictures" with those of multi-orgasmic women, and found the same patterns existed. Some men had more than one orgasm without ever experiencing a marked drop in heartbeat. Others had a number of orgasms in sequence, each separated from the next by the typical drop to "base" heartbeat. Others had a combination of both responses.
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These similarities served to remove any doubts we might have had regarding the issue. We are convinced that the only obstacles to a man's experiencing multiple orgasms of one kind or another are his conditioning and his acceptance of the idea that for a man orgasm and ejaculation always come together.

Further inquiry convinced us that even in the area of ejaculation, there is no one "normal" pattern among our multi-orgasmic subjects. Some seem to expel at least a small amount of ejaculate each time they reach a peak. Others only ejaculate when they have their "final" orgasm for the session. In some cases the man experiences what is called a "retrograde ejaculation." When this occurs, the ejaculate does not move out through the penis, but instead is forced back into the bladder, where it remains until the man urinates.

Generally speaking, however, we determined that most multi-orgasmic men do not have what might be termed a "full ejaculation" until they have experienced a number of sexual peaks. So the first goal of a man who wishes to become multi-orgasmic must be to learn to prevent full ejaculation until he is ready to end his sexual encounter.


There’s All Kinds

A recent article in a popular magazine notes that one reason why men do not have multiple orgasms is that, when they do, the last orgasm is not as good as the first. That may be true when a full ejaculation occurs with the first orgasm. However, that type of multiple orgasm does not seem to occur very often in laboratory situations.

Many young men know that if they ejaculate early in a sexual encounter they can continue to remain erect if they just keep up the stimulation. We have seen this response in one of our subjects, who ejaculated with each orgasm, continued stimulation until he had another orgasm (also with ejaculation), and who did not lose his erection until he was ready to stop. He had a very short recovery period, for as he lay resting after his first orgasm, as soon as his heartbeat had returned to normal he announced he could “go again." We reset the recorder, and he continued on, having four more orgasms before he was through. This man, in his sexual behavior, closely resembled some of our female subjects.
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Anyone wishing to verify these findings can consult the Appendix, where reproductions of the charts of these subjects are printed. They show conclusively the similarity between male and female responses both in individual-orgasmic and in multiple-orgasmic experiences.

Certain other similarities between male and female sexual responses began to show up in our dynograph recordings. For most multi-orgasmic men, the later orgasms were the stronger. This kind of response exactly parallels the experience we have had with females. When they are asked to rate their individual "peaks" in a multi-orgasmic experience, they rate the later orgasms as the more intense.

One interesting point. The men who gave us their subjective analysis of a series of orgasms did not seem to consider the amount of ejaculate expelled each time as very important. In some men the actual amount of ejaculate at each peak was about the same, but nevertheless the later orgasms were considered by them to be the more intense. In others, where ejaculation varied with each orgasm, there seemed to be no correlation between subjective value placed on the orgasm and the amount of ejaculate.

This leads to another important point: Quantity of ejaculate does not determine the quality of the orgasm.

One other point to consider. The multi-orgasmic men we have studied have chosen to develop that capability. They can function equally well with single orgasms. However, they experience multiple orgasms during masturbation as well as when having sex. If the only reason for a man learning to have multiple orgasms is so he can please his partner more, there would be no reason for him to seek multiple orgasms when he was alone. Obviously, a man receives a bonus of pleasure in masturbation when he learns to extend his orgasmic responses.
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Another interesting fact is that many of the men who have proven to be multi-orgasmic assume that all men have similar reactions, and so say nothing about their capacity until we remark on it. Rarely do we find that multi-orgasmic men have inflated egos because of that capacity. It is not, in other words, a "macho" response. It is learned as a way of increasing personal pleasure—and of sharing pleasure with another.


Getting Down to Basics

Don't assume that because others have multiple orgasms they can be achieved without effort.
    • Do you desire to learn this skill?
    • Are you motivated to achieve your goal?
    • Do you have the time to develop this skill?
If you answer yes to these three questions, we offer here a process that is effective. All you need add beyond those three ingredients is the willingness to think while you are reading and learning, so that you can be aware of your special needs and adapt the process we describe to fit them.

Success in sex is ultimately determined by intimacy— not by the number of orgasms each partner experiences. It also depends on the participants having fun. If, as you move along, you find the fun you have with sex increasing, then you know you are on the right track.

Sex should always be pleasurable. It should bring two people closer together in shared enjoyment. That's why male multi-orgasm is important. A woman and a man moving from one orgasm to another together will feel a closeness never shared in a less ideal situation. And that, certainly, is the ultimate in erotic delight.

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